A Different Way Forward: Emotional Wellness During the Holidays

Nov 5

Finding Calm in the Chaos

The holidays can stir up both joy and pain. They remind us of connection, but also of who or what we’ve lost. Two years, I spoke on Great Day KC and discussed that self-care is not about perfection — it’s about small, consistent acts of grounding. A walk outdoors, breathing between tasks, or giving yourself permission to rest can restore your nervous system and help you feel safe again.

When Grief Joins the Table

Grief doesn’t follow the calendar. Whether it’s the loss of a loved one, the ending of a marriage, or a shift in identity, the holidays can intensify emotions. Children, in particular, may show their grief through play, behavior changes, or withdrawal. Maintaining predictable routines, validating feelings, and modeling calm responses can make a world of difference.

Helping Kids Cope with Divorce During the Holidays

Divorce changes how children experience family traditions and belonging. Create new rituals— even simple ones like movie nights or cookie baking — that signal stability and love. Keep communication open, remind them that all their feelings are valid, and avoid placing them in loyalty conflicts. If co-parenting feels tense, focus on minimizing exposure to adult stress and increasing emotional safety.

Emotional Wellness Tips for the Season

Pause and breathe before saying yes — not every invitation requires attendance.

Spend time in nature or near light to lift mood and regulate energy.

Limit overexposure to social media or holiday comparisons.
Reach out for support — whether through therapy, community, or faith groups.
Practice gratitude and rest in equal measure.

Local & Virtual Grief Resources

Solace House – Grief support for children and adults (913-341-0318)
Saint Luke’s Hospice Groups – Support for loss and transition (816-502-8917)
Compassionate Friends – Peer support after child loss (compassionatefriends.org)
GriefNet – Online grief support communities (griefnet.org)